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Expert BDSM Mistress Tips: 5 Essential Toys

Every dominatrix has to start somewhere. As the top BDSM Mistress in the game, I thought I’d offer my expertise to aspiring mistresses wanting to start or expand their BDSM toy collection. Having the right equipment can really make your business and the way in which you use your tools will set you apart from your competitors, you just have to know-how. Here are my top 5 essentials, that are guaranteed to have your subs begging for more and coming to you time and time again.

1. Restraints

From handcuffs to rope, these are a fail-proof way of turning your slaves to putty in your hands. I find that rope builds anticipation within the scene you’re trying to create but it also enables you to showcase your assertiveness from the very start. The restraints are a reminder that they are powerless under your control.

A collar can help a sub find their place too. The collar is a physical reminder that they belong to you during your time together. Use that power to control their emotions and headspace, pulling them exactly where you want them. Quality is important here, so I would recommend a leather collar.

2. Blindfolds

Take it from the ultimate BDSM mistress, a blindfold or hood is a must during a good session. Taking away one sense ensures that the others resort to overdrive. Your sub will be squirming with anticipation, not knowing what’s coming next as you parade around them. The perfect recipe for control and humiliation. Hoods can also be used if you’re after something more hardcore. Keep in mind that this can sometimes feel claustrophobic for the sub, so just keep an eye on how they react during the session.

3. Strap On

There is often confusion about the strap on, so let me divulge. It is essentially a fake, portable penis. It consists of a harness and a dildo that is worn by the mistress, usually with the intention of penetration. Every BDSM mistress needs a harness that fits well, is comfortable and gets the job done right. Do some research before you buy and consider what could work best for you. In my experience, some nylon straps aren’t as comfortable as leather, It’s also easier to clean.

It will take a while to figure out what kind of dildos suit your style, but I recommend materials that are body-safe and comfortable. You can’t go wrong with silicone; it’s easy to clean and there is a range of sizes and colours available to enhance the experience.

4. Impact Toys

A dominatrix without a whip is like bread without butter. However, learning to use a whip, a flogger, a cane or any impact toy does take practice. I suggest starting with something like a paddle first. The sound of the spanking is clearly audible, so you can hear the results of your progress. It also gives you a clear target aim because the surface space is slightly larger on a paddle. A good, hard spanking shows that you are a BDSM mistress who means business and the more you do it the better you will become.

5. Sensory toys

Sensory toys are great because there is a lot of room for personal preference and experimentation here. Obviously, it depends on what you feel comfortable using and of course, the vibe of the scene you’re roleplaying. Sensory play increases suspense when you use it to build a scenario. From messy, or wet mat play and experimenting with sploshing, to nipple clamps and CBT shock rings, there are so many toys you can use when it comes to sensory play. Take a look at your options; specialising in a niche will certainly serve you well. Stimulating through varying degrees of pressure is a great way to get your sissy’s coming back for more.

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I hope my expertise has proved useful to the aspiring mistresses out there. If you’re a sub that needs a good slap, I am the ultimate BDSM mistress, who will provide the maximum femdom and milf mistress experience every time. Contact me today and I’ll decide if you’re worth seeing.